I WANT EXPERIENCE- exploring personality, indulging uncertainty, provoking curiosity

(c) Christy Lion Art

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LEAD BY EXAMPLE

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I’ve heard a lot of commencement speeches. However, this one went right down to my bone. Of course, how could it be else? This man has taught me English, when I was a teenager. I watched thousands and thousands of videos, interviews, read articles, always wanting to understand more. An inspirational speech of what it means to decide for a direction and how life challenges you to lead by example. 

“Life is a long, bumpy road, but that makes for an exciting ride.” I can’t wait to proceed on my journey. Thank you.

Extracts of Jon Bon Jovi’s commencement speech:

“Maybe you’ve mapped your life out. A corner office at a Fortune 500 company or a life in philanthropy, politics or even entertainment. Great! I say, “Go for it.” But if you haven’t — that’s ok too. Don’t be embarrassed by indecision.

Life is a long, bumpy road, but that makes for an exciting ride. Choose a direction and if the road turns — turn! If there is a fork in the road – take it! It’s ok to map out your future — but do it in pencil.

So if you want the amazing feeling of pride you’re feeling to last far beyond today — let’s make today and every day that follows about more than your own accomplishment. Make it about the power of we! Because, if you do, you’ll have a lot more than “things worth having”— you’ll have a life worth living.

And you can write that one down in pen”

I am.

Die Glut

Die Glut
Der Frühling verwirrt mich. Umwirbt mich. Berührt mich.
Eine Berührung. Eine Versuchung. Eine Entführung.
sucht. versucht. fühlt.
 Ein Glas zerbricht.
Ein Kratzer. Es kratzt. es juckt.
 Die Sonne geht. Der Regen fällt.
Wäscht weg das Brennen. Muss abkühlen.
Darf nicht sein. Nein darf nicht sein.
Grenzen aufstellen. wahren. überwinden ?
Unberührt erlischt sie. Diese Glut.
– (c) christina milassin, 2015
 

From Illusion to Re-cognition

Hi my name is Christy!

Just a thought to begin with.

My mediation training and my interest for peaceful and constructive ways of communicating with each other, not just learning to listen more to each other but also learning to express ourselves enabling others to hear us better, has showed me that whether it’s a conflict at work, with friends or with family members,

it’s not about “winning”, it’s about getting the chance to reflect our needs and wishes, to see them clearer and therefore articulate them better.

Inspired by William Ury’s new book : “Getting to YES with yourself” I am reminded and more and more convinced, that losing is not equal with losing.
The loss of a human connection with the other, the search for this “lost rope” that has connected us, this search that tends to result in a fight for understanding and to be heard is eventually a conflict- a “purely, charitable confusion”, which invites us to re-direct our attention to the person we have come to neglect in the confusion.

Ourselves?

So the question is, do I succeed to look at myself and my conflict with more patience and empathy, to even look at the other with the same patience and empathy to eventually exchange perspectives?

To stop being crushed by a brainstorm of secondary thoughts and rather re-cognize my primary interests?

Loss (of illusion)  —————> Patience ——————>Re-cognition of Interests

What a challenging and adventurous discovery ride that enables change : from “victim” (blaming others) to “creator” (taking response-ability).